This newsletter is a weekly homework I sent to Wwmn and subscribestar members. One of our Wwmn members suggested that everyone on the planet
would benefit from it, so here it is! I want to ask you to share this homework in my name, forward it to your friends, and also post it in your social media and other websites, for everyone to do. Let’s make this homework go viral!
Here it is:
Here is a whopper, what if we moved through life in complete clarity and transparency? This base energy is the opposite of what we are taught to do in an I/Me/Myself driven society where everyone is out to get what they want rather than connect with our people and environment.
Growing up, I was “brutally” honest about everything and everyone. The word “brutally” is very accurate because when I spoke, or didn’t speak, to other people, I didn’t wrap the words or silence in niceties or fluff.
To me it was strange how people would react to my words. They would either interpret them to mean something completely different, or they would take offense.
After a while, I tried lying. I would lie about a ton of stuff and people seemed to be happier. What I quickly found out about lying, was that every time I did it, it felt like a bit of my soul got destroyed.
This confusion and inability to communicate with other people (with words), was the main drive behind me studying Communication.
After years of study, and a nice degree in the subject, I finally figured out that communication is all about connection. And connection happens not through words, but through “kind words”.
“Kind words” are words that open connections instead of closing connections. And clarity and transparency shared with connection words, can forge very strong bonds.
This week, I would like you to look at a negative situation you find yourself in or were in, in the past, within a group, work or relationship, and do the following:
1. Write down the first statement (the thought about the situation).
2. Check the statement for victim / aggressor energy. Is it an accusative statement?
a. Does it insult or blame?
b. Who is the victim / who is the aggressor in the statement?
c. Realize that by creating that cycle in your mind, emotions and energy field, you are feeding the beast.
3. Reword the statement so it no longer has a victim or an aggressor. It does not blame or accuse someone of something.
a. Check the statement for insulting words regarding another person/group.
4. Rewrite the statement so there are no direct insults on a person or group.
5. After doing the above, write a new statement that reflects your thoughts of the situation again.
6. Read the statement in number 4 out loud several times, does it feel charged in any way? Would you be able to hear this without feeling attacked?
7. Check to see if you would say these words to your favorite plant or pet. No? Start again.
If you still feel the need to, share the statement with the person/people concerned. Mostly, this exercise is to resolve the projection of authority onto others (blame). When we stop giving away our authority, we become highly empowered.
Connection and having connection as your main communication energy, instead of “being seen”, “being loved”, “being accepted”, “being liked”, “being admired”, “being a victim”, “being an aggressor”, “being helpful”, “being hurt”… is a reality changer.
I look forward to seeing this homework shared around the world. Pass it forward!
Inelia